Emma: You should’ve asked.
“When a man expects his partner to ask him to do things, he’s viewing her as the manager of household chores. So it’s up to her to know what needs to be done and when.
The problem with that is that planning and organizing things is already a full-time job.
At work, once I started managing projects, I quickly stopped participating in them. I didn’t have the time.
So when we ask women to take on this task of organization, and at the same time to execute a large portion, in the end it represents 75% of the work.
Feminists call this work the mental load.”
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